Ladies…Keep your Damn Legs Closed!!

Women please stop giving up the ass so fast!  You are a treasure and should be treated as one.  You complain endlessly about not being able to find a good man.  Of course not!  Some of you guys jump in the sack so quick with these guys, it makes my head spin.  No man wants to wife a woman that he banged on the first date.  He assumes you do that with every man you meet.  Can you blame him?  I’ve never respected a woman that will give it up on the first date or say, “You don’t need a condom, I’m clean.”  Yeah, whatever.  If you give it up on the first date, you’ve just been categorized as a ho by that man and that’s all you will ever be to him.

The women I respected the most in my life made me wait a month before we had sex.  She respected herself and made me respect her.  I knew at that point that I wasn’t just another notch on her bedpost.  It’s important to a man.  Some men don’t care, but most do.  A good man, anyway.

Respect yourself.  Make him wait.  If he doesn’t want to wait, let him go.  That’s one more headache and heartache you don’t have to deal with and one more doctor’s visit you don’t have to plan.

Now, if you just need a quickie, do what you got to do.  Don’t go backwards, though.  Some women go and hook up with exes because the sex was good.  C’mon ladies, there’s obviously a reason your not with him.  Let it go.

Whether you believe it or not, you’re a gift to a man.  You complete him.  And no matter what we say or how much we complain, we need you.  Can’t exist without you.  So cut out the fat – all those bum-ass men you associate with and look for quality.  When Mr. Quality comes along, you will have so much more to offer him.  Like a tight vagina.  Accept only the best.

All we ever have in this life is our self-respect.  Keep it.

Who Cheats More? Part 2

I recently posted on my reasons for men and women getting their “cheat on.”  Well one reader had her own perspective on the cheating game, check it out.

Why Do People Cheat?

by Krista Starr

The age old question…why do people cheat on each other when in relationships?

Men are ruled by visuals while women are ruled by emotions. I guess that explains why the porn industry is a female dominated industry fueled by men’s money, and why Danielle Steele books are always best sellers.

I think that both genetics and environment play a role when it comes to cheating. Let’s get this straight – the fact that men, for thousands of years, have been the “chasers” and are genetically pre-disposed to spreading their seed far and wide does NOT excuse men for cheating on their women. It does however, play a part in the reason why they cheat. Men love to chase. They will wine and dine you, bring you flowers, show you off to their friends – all while pursuing you. Why does that all end when you finally enter into a “monogamous” relationship? Because the chase is over! They’ve got what they wanted. Now what? It may be weeks, months or even years before your man actually considers cheating on you. He may or may not follow through at that time. Don’t be fooled – he’s cheated on you from day 1 in his imagination! Why? Because men are all about having what they can’t have. The elusive chase.

I know you don’t want to hear this ladies,  but we women play a role in our men cheating. We make sure that our make up and hair is perfect, we work out at the gym regularly, and we look good.. while we are dating, and often even into the first part of being in a relationship with our man. BUT once we get comfortable with him being there when we come home from work and seeing us wake up with bed-head and raccoon eyes, we slowly let ourselves go. We put on our hoody and sweats when we get home from work, instead of our hip-hugger jeans.. we put on our pink cotton bathrobe when we get out of bed on Sunday morning that we’ve had since college instead of slipping on a cute tshirt and short shorts, too many nights of “Not tonight, I’m tired” or “I’ve gotta get up early tomorrow”. Whether you like it or not, ladies, our men have to continue to be visually, and physically, stimulated.. or they’ll start looking elsewhere.

Women, on the other hand, are emotional by nature. Every man knows that helping your lady with the dishes, giving her a back rub or running her a bubble bath means that your night is probably going to end with great sex. Why? Because the more you take care of your women OUTSIDE of the bedroom, the better she’ll take care of you INSIDE the bedroom! Women are easy to figure out – compliment us (and genuinely mean it), snuggle up with us on the couch (and don’t try to get us to blow you while we’re in the middle of a show), take us out for dinner, surprise us by helping out around the house without us having to ask or nag you.. these things are women’s foreplay. Oh, and speaking of foreplay.. most women need some time to warm up before you go for the gold. Set out some candles, undress us slowly, caress us.. make us FEEL like you give a shit.

So, why do women cheat? One word – NEGLECT. In the beginning, when you were chasing your lady, you called her just to hear her voice, showed up at her work to take her for lunch, looked (and smelled) good when you went out clubbin’, asked her questions, and listened to her bitch about her friends. Once it was a done deal, the interest in your lady slowly subsided. You came home from work and took up residence in front of the TV with your beer, started leaving your rolled-up smelly socks by the front door, made a ritual of going out to watch UFC on the big screen at your local sports bar with the boys every Friday night.. instead of spending time with us.

As much as you boys need to be visually and physically stimulated, we women need to be emotionally cared for and intellectually stimulated. We like talking. We like you to listen. When we ask how your day was, we want more than “Fine”. We want YOU to ask US how OUR day was.. and not walk away as we’re telling you about it! For every man who is uninterested in their woman, there are several other men who are definitely interested in your woman! So.. if you wanna hold onto your lady – PAY ATTENTION TO HER.

Who cheats more? Men or Women?

Who cheats more, men or women?  Most people would say men cheat more and maybe we do.  I don’t know.  I think we get a bad wrap.  The amazing thing is that I talk to a lot of women and they all seem to think that all men cheat all the time…except their men.  And a lot of the guys I speak to believe women are very good at cheating and are just as bad as we are…except their women.  Well, from my own experiences, men cheat a lot, but women cheat better.

Women are not amazing at cheating, we’re just idiots.  In most cases women give us plenty of clues to let us know that we’re about to get cheated on.  You see, there are exceptions to every rule.  Some women cheat just because the sun is shining.  But in my travels I’ve learned, a neglected girlfriend will only take so much shit from you before she finally says yes to that guy at work or at the gym that she’s been turning down.  Yes as we speak fellas, there is a guy right now hitting on your girl or wife.  He’s good looking, listens to her long winded stories (like he cares), and patiently waits for her to come in pissed at the fight you two had last night.  Next thing you know she shaving the forest below (she hasn’t shaved in a year!), and she’s matching her bra and panties again.

The reality is that men love women in any capacity.  We are hunters and women are the prey.  We hunt no matter what.  Women always ask, “Why do men cheat so much?”  Why?  Why not?  In many cases, there is no justification for our actions other than being horny.  We love sex.  It’s as simple as that.  We love hot, stank-nasty, butt-naked monkey love anywhere, anytime.  No matter how good the relationship is, a man will dip-out (sneak out).

Women can’t conceive the fact that men are detached from sex emotionally.  If your man walks up and says, “C’mon baby, let’s do this”, and you say no, he will simply think of other ways (the Internet) or other women to help him through the “hard” times.  Some women are as gangster as men.  Sometimes women will wake up next to you in the morning with a fake-ass yawn and tell you, “well, look at the time…don’t you need to be somewhere?”

Now that technology is so advanced, cheating is even more devious than ever!  Men and women go through incredible measures to effectively cheat.  We text, e-mail, IM, chat, socially network, date online and ten thousand other things I can’t even think of right now.  We have email addresses that the other party doesn’t know about.  We have phones hidden away from our partners eyes.  We have friends we shouldn’t have.  And at the end of the day we have to dump emails and erase histories so that we can achieve our goal.  I’ve seen the most computer illiterate women become Internet savvy to either get their cheat on or find out if their partner is cheating.